Tuesday, 15 October 2013

Lee Davis-Conchie - A life well run...

I've just switched my phone on after landing in Beijing, only to get the news that Lee Davis-Conchie passed away as we were flying to China. I know a lot of people have been following Lee's story over the last few years.

Happy day in Luhacovice, Czech Republic
Lee was my student, an instructor in our school and my friend. Just over two and a half years ago he phoned with the shocking and unexpected news that he had leukaemia. Since then he went through a roller coaster journey with many emotional highs and lows: 12 gruelling courses of chemotherapy; an ultimately unsuccessful bone marrow transplant. In the beginning it seemed unthinkable that Lee would not come out victorious in the end. He was just that kind of apparently indestructible person. Who goes through 7 hours chemo and then goes out into the hospital grounds to practice his spear form? Who leaves the cancer ward with a drain hanging out of his chest to do a Chen Ziqiang Cannon Fist seminar? Many people have Chen Xiaowang's calligraphy hanging on their walls. Lee had it inked onto his body - alongside a dramatic tattoo of Chen Wangting. A year after getting his calligraphy he showed a surprised, to say the least, Chen Xiaowang his art depicted on skin instead of the usual rice paper.

Escaping from hospital for
Chen Ziqiang's Cannon Fist Workshop
Kipling's famous poem asks whether you can 'fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds worth of distance run'. In the last two years, with all the stress and uncertainties that he faced, Lee achieved an extraordinary amount: He became a poster boy and champion for UK blood cancer charity, the Anthony Nolan Trust, set up in 1974 to establish a register of bone marrow donors; he co-founded the Blackpool and Flyde Haemotology Support Group to help people with blood disorders, their families and careers; He "escaped" from hospital to take part in our school's first in-house Chinese Wushu Association grading conducted by Chen Ziqiang. Lee gave one of the most accomplished performances of hand and sword form, showing only poise and confidence. Looking at him, it was hard to believe that he was ill at all. Though his mum Pat said he was desperately ill at the time, sleeping all the way to and from the event, but adamant that he was not going to miss it; Lee attended most of the seminars with Chen Xiaoxing and Chen Ziqiang over those last few years. Sometimes having to sit down for a few minutes' rest, but even doing this with a smile and purpose - looking out for a few of the other students going through their own health issues - as he put it "time for a cancer break"! As well as keeping his own classes going, Lee set up a monthly Taiji in the Park event to raise money for local Blackpool charities; Recognising his great spirit, Lee was inducted into Martial Arts Illustrated magazine's Hall of Fame in the True Grit category...

Getting Duan Certificate from Chen Xiaowang
You get the picture. This was a man who thought about more than himself. This was a man who took joy in living his life and helping others to live theirs. This was a man who inspired people. In a rare role reversal, Chen Ziqiang asked to have his picture taken with Lee as he found his attitude inspirational!

Lee seemed to be in a good place. He was ready for a second transplant, this time from a donor from Israel. It seemed like there was still a fighting chance for him - according to the doctors it was as close to a 100% match as was possible. Only a week ago Lee was coming to train when he got a severe headache. It turned out he had had a brain haemorrhage. A few hours later he was given the devastating news that his life could now be measured in days.

I wrote most of this blog on the plane to Chenjiagou accompanied by an eager group excited at the prospect of training at ancestral home of Taijiquan. Yesterday we were with Lee. A real warrior - no self pity, meeting his next journey head on and making sure that the people left behind we're OK. Lee never managed to fulfil his ambition of training in the village. So he donated a little piece of himself to be laid at the tomb of Chen Wangting.

Lee, Chen Xiaoxing and Adrian Barry, 
who looked after Lee's classes when he was ill
Chenjiagou Taijiquan GB is a close family and like all families we sometimes lose loved ones. But their presence and influence carries on within the family. At the end of his life Lee said to me "they say I've inspired a few people", clearly taking comfort from this. You don't have to come from Chenjiagou to be a warrior... Sitting with Lee at the end of his life he introduced Davidine and I to one of his nurses as his mentors and inspiration. This truly brought a lump to my throat, coming from someone who had just taught me a life lesson in how to face the unfaceable. Lee was 44 years old when he died. I salute you my friend for living what so many only talk about.

If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew 
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you 
Except the will which says to them: 'Hold on!' 
Then you are a true warrior!

Good Times!

6 comments:

  1. Wow. I'm reading this two weeks after being told that I'm "in heart failure." I know exactly how Lee felt. How do you give up something that's such an important part of you? What a great blog post. Thanks, David. Good timing. :)

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  2. What an inspiration. Thanks for sharing, David.

    Ken - be well and get well.

    Rich S.

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  3. Thankyou David for this wonderful Bog, As you no Lee was my amazing teacher and incredible friend, he took everything in his stride and i never once heard him complain, 'It is what it is' he would say, He is my inspiration and his Taiji students will keep his incredible legacy going. I salute him for he was a true living warrior. xx

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  4. What an inspirational story, I feel at a loss for not knowing the man. Your ability to share his amazing accomplishments in this short post honors his deeds. Thank you for sharing. Be well Ken.

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  5. In the area where I live, there is no Chen Style Tai Chi. So, I looked for a school. After not having any success finding a school in my area I started a group. I have studied many different martial arts before, but something just grabbed me about Chen Style. Often I feel like I am probably the only one in a square 100 miles who knows what Chen Tai Chi is and the amazing benefits it has to offer. While I have never met Mr Gaffney or Mr Davis-Conchie, when I read this blog it inspires me to continue to practice and encourage people to learn. Thank you for the inspiration!

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  6. I am so sorry for this loss. He has inspired a few people indeed. I live in the US and I saw Lee's story on Facebook. From that day I dedicated myself to train daily fueled by his inspiring story. Often I have thought "what would Lee do?" and I will go train. I have never met him but I will not forget him. Thank you David for sharing his story with the world.

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